Monday, June 13, 2011

Between the Memorable

“The poet Jack Gilbert wrote that marriage is what happens “between the memorable”. He said that we often look back on our marriages years later, perhaps after one spouse has died and all we can recall are “the vacations, and emergencies”- the high points and the low points. The rest of it blends into a blurry sort of daily sameness. But it is that very blurred sameness, the poet argues, that comprises marriage. Marriage is those two thousand indistinguishable conversations, chatted over two thousand indistinguishable breakfasts, where intimacy turns like a slow wheel. How do you measure the worth of becoming that familiar to somebody- so utterly well known and so thoroughly ever-present that you become an almost invisible necessity, like air?”

- Elizabeth Gilbert, Committed

Between the memorable moments of our current lives, Dustin and I will be enjoying an indistinguishable lunch date at Qdoba. And then tonight we’ll share front-row (couch) seats for a viewing of the Bachelorette. Talk about a slow wheel of intimacy...

Dustin- When I take you for granted (which is unfortunately often) try to see it as an example of you becoming an invisible necessity in my life (in a good way!). I love you every day, and every moment- even the blurry same ones.


  1. So poignant! I'm glad to have read this today.

  2. Such a beautiful post. Dustin would be crazy not to love you - but he's smart, not crazy. When you share thoughts like this, it shines a warm ray of happiness into my heart that I can not find anywhere else. So, thank you. You bring a happy tear to your Daddy's eye.

  3. Well said definition on marriage.

    I missed most of this episode of the Bachelorette (not complaining) although I did see the parts where they 'helped' the orphanage by painting some walls with some extremely watered-down paint and tossing a few ready made soccer goals down. Eh.

    Once Bentley left last week I was out. But I hope she finds her soul mate to share that daily sameness with.

  4. This made me happy when I read it this morning. I thought it about it a couple times throughout the day and it made me thankful for my hubby too!